So let’s face it, the days after Labor Day are like the mother of all hangovers. It’s a full blown summer-hangover. It’s the unofficial start of fall.
Not that I have anything against fall, I’m actually psyched for it, but I’ve had some unusually hard days this week. Struggling to get up and out and functioning.
You know what I’m talking about… you’ve been there. You’ve had one of those days.
Where everything you’re tasked with is just annoying, or completely pointless to your existence (so you think). Every responsibility is a burden. Every person in your life is a hassle. Everything feels uncreative, or unproductive, or unwanted.
There’s a lot of negativity in this intro, but bear with me, it gets better!
Call it being selfish, or call it Mercury in Retrograde. We all have days like this, and if we’re not careful about where these feelings take us, they can alter our whole week, maybe even month. We could spiral into a hole of self-questioning that lasts way longer than an ordinary hangover.
Today, my new friends, was a day like this for me.
I just couldn’t shake the blues. And the minute I’d think it was going to get better, something would throw me a couple rings back down the ladder.
A not-so-positive email from a client. “Constructive criticism” from my boss. Cancelled plans. An unfulfilling lunch. Train delays. A sore throat.
All this had me like “Seriously?? What else is going to happen today?” by the time 6:00pm rolled around.
But it happened – the key to shutting the negative door and opening the power to change the day finally presented itself.
I came home and sat down to dinner with my grandma and brother. Some normal conversations started over salads and seltzers, and eventually lead to “real talk” ranging from divorce to religion. Ya know, light dinner table topics…
But the point is that it distracted me. Being able to talk freely and comfortably and laugh with my family totally took my mind off the negativity I was holding on to throughout the day.
Cleaning up my dish and parting ways from them for the night, some of the things that had been bothering me started creeping back into the forefront of my mind. And I realized they didn’t hurt so bad anymore.
And instead of thinking back and tallying all the negatives from the days, I started thinking about the positives. What could be considered a win instead of a loss.
Taking some negative situations and starting to see the positives in them.
For example, my plans to Mexico this month got cancelled. Bummer, but now I can commit to not drinking until October without the pressures of margaritas and tequila.
Voila. My day turned around, my mood turned around, everything seemed okay – just by shifting my mindset. The power of positivity is really such a master in disguise.
So here’s my tip for harnessing the power of positivity and keeping yourself SANE and HEALTHY in this crazy world: If you’re struggling with a shitty day (or week), start turning it around with a Gratitude List.
Grab a piece of paper, a napkin, your iPhone, a blank email… whatever and wherever you can jot this down. List 10 things that you’re grateful for right now.
It doesn’t have to be mountain-moving, essay worth stuff. It could be as simple as “I’m grateful for the beautiful weather today” or “I’m grateful that my coworker said thank you.” Anything from your egg and avocado breakfast wrap to your loving boyfriend. Whatever you’re thankful for today.
It’s a guaranteed mood changer, which is SO important.
Always remember, having a positive mindset is critical for overall health & wellness.